Are any of your friends endangering your spiritual health and purity before the Lord?
Read Judges 14:3.
Samson’s father and mother said to him, “Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or all of our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?” And Samson said to his father, “Get her for me. She’s the right one for me.”
When it came to relationships, Samson was guided by his lower impulses instead of the principles of God’s Word. And he paid dearly for it. Three times we read in Judges 14 that…”Samson went down…” (ex., Judges 14:1, 5, 7). First, he went down to Timnath and married the wrong woman. Second, he went down to Gaza and spent the night with a harlet. Third, he went down to Sorek and ended up in the lap of Delilah, where he lost his strength, his freedom, his reputation, his anointing, his eyes, and ultimately, his life.
There is a lesson here for every redeemed child of God. The apostle Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 6:14 that, “Followers of Jesus should not be yoked together with unbelievers.” In God’s eyes, people are divided into two categories: those who are in Christ and those who are not. Therefore believers must not be in intimate associations or relationships with unbelievers, because such relationships can corrupt their relationship with Christ.
Is God being biased or unloving? No, He is being protective. When you are “yoked together” in a relationship with someone who does not share your faith, your values, your goals, and your priorities, you end up in a tug of war with each pulling in a different direction. When problems arise, which they surely will, what you need is someone by your side who turns to the same source you do for the solution – God.
Jesus and Paul also warned that, “It is God’s will that you avoid sexual immorality. That each of you learn to control his or her own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5).
Why did God say this? Because when there is physical intimacy without true commitment, somebody’s going to get hurt. You need to pay attention to what God says on this issue. And you need to do it before you get into situations where you are tempted to compromise your character and calling to be set apart to God, because by then it is too late.
We all struggle with our sexuality in a culture on campus (and larger society) where “sex sells.” Our sexuality is such a beautiful and integral part of who we are, and guilt about it has a way of making us feel ashamed and separated from God like nothing else can. In order to determine your values and establish some ground rules, you need to think and pray if you are going to allow your impulses to dictate to you your behavior, or sin to separate you from God (and others).
Will you choose to keep and rely on God’s design for your sexuality and expression, and rely on His Spirit each day to give you strength? And if you do sin, will you seek forgiveness, get back up, and move closer to God? That’s a prayer God will answer! Live communally. What would be the best way to tactfully end a relationship with someone who is dragging you down?
Love is a verb,
©2018 by Mike Olejarz